How to Stay Confident

How to Stay Confident



Doing something worthwhile in this life is admirable. Doing something worthwhile with your own unique twist is a standard all of its own. You have permission to do just that. Be confident and go create your own standard.


Confidently Creating Your Own Standard

Psychologists estimate that you have 65,000 thoughts every day. More than that, about 85 percent of them are negative and cause fear. Well, isn’t that a lovely fact? How then are we supposed to walk confidently creating our own standard, being comfortable in our skin and radiating positive and charismatic energy with so much coming against our minds?




Own It!

Well, my friend, it comes down to one irresistible trait and my personal motto: own it! When you own it, you walk in the confidence that you are who you are. A resonating peace that you are walking your own journey follows. At that point, you won’t need to apologize for being you. Whether a loud rambunctious woman or a soft-spoken gentle one, you are who you are, and that’s all that matters. You own it.


Connect With You

You get to that point by connecting with your passions, your thoughts, your dreams, your life. With so many competing thoughts, however, it can be hard to know what is a meaningful pursuit for your life. Giving yourself time and an intention to find those meaningful paths is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. It’s the birthplace of confidence.



Get Out of Your Own Way

Staying connected to those values and pursuits once you find them is your next task. Sadly, it’s fairly easy to disconnect from who you really are and what you really want. Any one of those intrusive 65,000 negative thoughts can challenge your confidence… AND in no time at all, it will cause you to doubt, which only unleashes fear!

The solution is to stay in the present and get out of your own head. When you start to veer into what other people are thinking or saying or what all could go wrong or how you might be in some forsaken path, you disconnect from your own truth and start entertaining someone else’s. That is an automatic hit to your confidence.

Intuitively, you know this is true. You also know it’s not easy. The constant practice of protecting your values, integrity and meaningful pursuits can be a challenge.

Own It All!

One helpful hint is to own it all. Rather than hide from all those thoughts or feeling, bring them out in the open and own them. If you are nervous, own it. If you are afraid, own it. If you are angry, own it.

At that point you will be connecting with what is real. Therein lines authenticity and a subtle yet powerful form of confidence. What you’ll more than likely find is that you aren’t alone in your feelings or experiences. In this way, you will empower the women around you to own their own truth, too.

Don’t misunderstand owning it for arrogance. Just because you own it, doesn’t mean you can’t also acknowledge the need for growth. True confidence owns it all: I am afraid. I don’t want to be, but I am. In this moment, I need to focus on what I can do. Ask for help with what I can’t. And keep pushing forward.




What To Do When Doubt Comes

So when doubt comes, and it will come, remember me, Ms. Flirt. Your feminine power is undeniable. Your passions don’t need to be realistic. Confidence is the best outfit you can ever own. Wear it proudly, and own your own life!


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~Ms. Flirt

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